“It’s not the size of the dog in the fight, it’s the size of the fight in the dog.” - Mark Twain Mark Twain’s famous quote could not be a more fitting in the world of competitive tennis. Emotional Aptitude in Tennis peeks into why athletes with seemingly solid games lose... and lose often. Most players enter the game intently focused on improving technical (strokes), mental (strategic) and their athletic components. Unfortunately, these outward components are kidnapped due to under-developed emotional skill sets. I have written a new book, Emotional Aptitude in Sports, as a result of my curious obsession with the root causes of choking and panicking under stress. Why do a handful of players at the club have all the trophies? Why isn’t on-court stroke production, riding the stationary bike or buying the latest gear helping athletes earn more hardware? To the untrained eye, technique and mental toughness seems to take the blame for most losses. But if these components appear flawless in practice on Friday only to abandon the athlete in Saturday's match, there is definitely more to the story. All too often it’s an athlete’s lack of emotional aptitude that’s holding them hostage under stress. Successfully handling competitive pressure demands a more focused emotional developmental regimen. Decades of observational research has shown me that emotional aptitude is more important than “perfect” technique in athletic competition. Athletes are often frustrated that their match day performance is far inferior to their practice performance. The majority of tennis athletes interviewed believed that the inherent complexity of their sport is the cause of their stress that halts their success. But in actuality, their stress is caused by simply being judged. While every top athlete must be willing to put in the hours developing their technique, becoming physically fit and understanding tennis specific strategic plans, to be a successful competitor, they must also to be able to perform when it counts. As professionals, we see it every weekend, in every age division whether we realize it or not. Elegant looking, well trained athletes often wilt under the heat of competition while seemingly unorthodox looking competitors flourish. Why? The answer is the athlete’s lack of complete development- avoiding the development of the emotional component. Let's use the computer analogy to further explain this phenomena. I'd like you to look at an athlete the same way you look at your computer. For the computer to run efficiently both the external hardware and internal software packages work seamlessly together. For the athlete, their hardware package consists of their technical and athletic aptitude. Their software package consists of their mental and emotional aptitude. Far too many athletes are unevenly developed as competitors. Poor emotional aptitude actually causes your students technique to break down, their footwork to vanish, their focus to waver and their problem solving skills to abandon them when they need them the most. It’s our job as industry leaders to begin to develop the skill sets necessary to strengthen most athlete’s weakest link …which is the emotional muscle. Parents need to know that this situation is partially the teaching professional’s failure. As I travel across the country I see two very common teaching scenarios, one set of coaches are the political “snow job” artist and the second set are true developmental artist. I see the “snow job” artist at posh country clubs, in parks and rec's and coaching D-1 College. They are political masters. They fully understand that teaching “change” is difficult and uncomfortable. It's much, much easier for them to fluff over the difficult changes and keep everyone coming back smiling next week. I get it- if the athlete wants to hit and giggle. But in order to serve the best interest of the competitive tennis player, more of the second set of coaches are needed- those who choose to develop a complete athlete by developing technical, athletic, mental and emotional components to maximize the player’s potential. The True Athlete Project gives practical training to coaches so they can develop the whole athlete. Of course this produces a more well-rounded human being, but it also nurtures a finer athlete, who can handle competitive pressure demands. I employ the coaches to take the high road in the education of your children. The challenge for both the parents and the coaches is to do the research and improve so teaching the more difficult components becomes second nature. This requires both IQ... And emotional aptitude. Which brings us full circle. Understanding emotional aptitude as a parent or coach will help you help your athletes as you connect at a deeper level. It will aid you in mastering difficult components and conversations. Most importantly, emotional intelligence will assist you in developing more efficient competitors at crunch time. I’m convinced that the future leaders are the teachers who are open to learning and then sharing. This is what moves us all forward. Connect with Frank Giampaolo via Facebook or receive his free monthly newsletter at: www.maximizingtennispotential.com
Frank Giampaolo is a bestselling author of The Tennis Parent’s Bible, Championship Tennis and Raising Athletic Royalty. He is a sports education veteran, convention speaker, sports educator and instructional writer for ITF (International Tennis Federation), Coaching & Sports Science Review, UK Tennis magazine, USPTA, USTA, Tennis Magazine and Tennis View Magazine. He is planned to deliver workshops with The True Athlete Project beginning in 2017.
27 Comments
7/26/2018 04:22:35 pm
Sports is sports. There will always be one person hailed as the winner and the other as the loser. If you have a short temper and you get angry easily when you lose, sports might not be for you. You cannot take it personally when you lose because you have to show sportsmanship for your opponent who is celebrating because of his or her win. If you were the one who won, I am pretty sure you would not like it if your opponent feels like you did not deserve to win, would you?
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8/16/2018 11:38:36 pm
Well, you see, even though sports is sports and there are always winners and losers, you cannot simply just disregard the fact that tennis is a sport of mental and physical endurance. Playing the match in at least one hour and extending up to over six hours in a marathon match is just frustrating. Most games are conducted during the night so there is a tendency to skip meal. Even Great Britain and tennis future hall of fame inductee Sir Andy Murray said that the format of the game is real challenging. Thus, I believe tennis players should not be criticize of the loss. Not to mention, they are always in constant tour so that even contributes to their fatigue.
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5/27/2019 03:23:11 am
attitude on tennis or any sports is very important, that can help you win any matches!
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10/17/2019 12:17:41 pm
Emotional aptitude plays a significant role in tennis. So, an athlete should be emotionally fit enough to understand the strategy made by the opponent and to make counter-strategy to own the game. The mental fitness of a sportsman is as important as physical fitness and the coach should be aware of different factors critical to the mental fitness of sportsmen which could be very useful to own a game.
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7/15/2020 06:19:54 am
Anger is an indicator that something doesn't feel right. It isn't fun to feel angry, but sometimes it's easier to feel anger than to acknowledge (and actually feel) all of the vulnerable feelings that sit underneath the anger. Vulnerable feelings like grief, shame, and disappointment can feel uncomfortable and painful. We can sometimes use anger to protect ourselves from feeling this vulnerability and pain.
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7/25/2022 07:48:59 pm
To the untrained eye, technique and mental toughness seems to take the blame for most losses. But if these components appear flawless in practice on Friday only to abandon the athlete in Saturday's match, I’m so thankful for your helpful post!
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10/29/2022 06:42:20 pm
The hours developing their technique, becoming physically fit and understanding tennis specific strategic plans, to be a successful competitor, Thank you for sharing your great post!
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There is so much in this article that I would never have thought of on my own. Your content gives readers things to think about in an interesting way. Thank you for your clear information.
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2/5/2024 07:00:17 pm
It was most captivating when you shared that emotional aptitude can help coaches connect athletes at a deeper level. My friend wants to enhance his tennis skills. I should advise him to opt for tennis coaching for proper guidance.
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How does emotional aptitude affect a tennis player's performance during high-pressure matches?
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